Spare The Rod ....For Sure ..U won't Spoil the Child !!

Most of the people who observe my friend from distance and some of the people with whom my friend does not speak more than good morning’s and good evening’s come up with similar reports regarding his unique interpersonal communication…..It is that he lacks interpersonal relations {even with his parents – close friends say}…Ofcourse it is true… I found it difficult to narrate each and everyone why he became such an abnormal person…So, I am furnishing his flashback in this blog…This is not furnished so as to create sympathy but an awareness to people as how parents shouldn’t behave towards their children, so that they don't become like my friend…People who have great reverence towards their parents ,please stop reading further……..

.......By birth, he was like a normal child….He used to be so active and too mischievous to be controlled…Since his parents were working, they couldn’t look after him and hence he spent 5 Years under his grandma ‘s custody…….Every Sunday his mother used to visit him, but never his father , as he was working in a discreet portion of Tamil nadu…..Now, After completing his kG ‘s his mother took him back to pavilion ..

….By nature,he was gifted with mocking , teasing {in a moderate way} everyone….but bcoz he had only few chances to talk with his father ,he was not glueing with him …He used to mock his sister now and then..Now that if tears goes in litres,his mother would put him out of grounds,by granulizing things to his father..usually he scolded and left him out after a Hitler warning…. One fine Sunday,during his silliest mocking ,his sister started weeping..His father turned so horrible that he packed his belongings{ mostly pencil rubber slates} and started towards a boy’s hostel…He never saw such a terrific face of his… He was bit startled ..very much startled!!…He was sobbing and promised him that he shall never do such things in future… This incident had 2 impacts in him ..One is that he never mocked thenafter{He curtailed all his childishness}.Other one,,, he developed fear , …shyness in speaking to his father….

His father is such a personality who spends more for his relatives lavishly but thinks thrice for spending to his own family..An Instance to support this >>>> My friend was playing regularly cricket with village boys.…His friends decided to buy a bat for Rs 500.They asked him for just Rs 20 , for which his father asked them thousand questions.Atlast after an hour decision he finally accepted that……My friend felt ashamed bfore his friends..From that day onwards, he thought twice bfore asking any penny amount from his father … One day ,it so happened that his father whiped him and his sister in a locked room After that my friend never really dared to talk with his father ...For him ,Crowd never throws curtains for thrashing my friend down...Even in tirupathi ,amidst the crowd he bet him at backs with the maximum force possible , for a just mocking his sister jovially} ..He was then 14 years old and managed to control his tears which a child should never attempt at that age..Naturally he keeps everyday rollingwith an inbuilt stress ..

Also his spirits really went down , when his father had frequent altercations with his paternal uncle for a coconut tree…He used to be a silent spectator…Since these were troubling him much inside, he couldn’t accept what ever was gifted from environment , outside.There was some sort of insecurity around him..,….His troubles doubled , when his father refused to pay an additional Rs 5 to autowahla in chennai , for which family was including himselves were punished severly ..They were bound to drench in heavy rain…His mother too got severly affected bcoz of her husband's behaviour…Poor lady.. And my friend moving to hostels ,totally separated the tiny hanging relation with his father..I have never seen his father taking him to films...Mostly he will take to films with lot of Reluctance...like Team Outings in a Project for the very sake of just outing...And that too ticket counters closed..He started going to films lonely in his college life…Whenever he sees people coming in family in theatres,parks,Temples ,he felt like a fish out of water..His father never used to dine with them..He had a strange ideology.In abstract,his relationship with his father was like a dew drop in lotus leaf,never really adhesive....

When he saw rajkiran’s role in “Thavamai thavamirinthu”,he cried the whole night.He has a resolution that he should never become a father ..if at all he becomes a father ,he should never be like his father…May be sounds Rhyme to u...

He used to tell me "Whenever I kick my own Bucket ,it will be becoz of turbulent heart Attack...For sure...

Whereever I go , People say my behaviour is unusual …All credits goes to my father…!!!!!!! "

Marriages are No more "The Same Old Stories"...

“Not all the men are fools ,Some remain Bachelors too “ ….This was my most Passionate slogan…Kindly note the word “was” fervently in the previous sentence…Now that , I have completely erased those sentences from my cerebrum and have strewn them into debris……

Flashback:

After my college days , I had plenty of time…I thought of investing the time in Books so that I can reap high capital appreciation in terms of Knowledge…In Vedantri’s “Personality of Mind” there was a jotting as why one should get married…..”We eliminate waste entities from our body in the form of liquid (sweat) ,solid (bowels) and finally Jel (sperms)…If the ejection is spasmodic and not Periodic ,u develop physical imbalance.. This is synonymous of that sort that u succumb to constipation , when u don’t free ur bowels..The other ways of ejaculation like masturbation and seeking a prostitute will backfire , for certain”…

Also by my cognition Prowess , I felt that marriage will compliment u a person with whom u can have a life long free talk time, unlike ur parents ,friends , relatives who cease to come with us somewhere in the life map …. Fine ….How should my marriage be ?

Let the invitation cards be colourful , unique and lucrative …Let my spouse wear dozens of necklace over her neck ..Let guest enjoy an Air conditioned stay in the marriage hall eating lucid dishes…Let the marriage start and end in pomp ….. Doing all these sort of Non-Sense will benefit only 2 things :

1) People dependent on Marriage Ceremonies mostly like caterers , photographers , interior decoraters , Marriage hall owners etc will stop ekeing out and will get more than handsome….
2) Relatives make a merry in marriages , with mutual introduction to their sister ‘s half brother ‘s niece ‘s brother in law ‘s ……They totally shun bride and groom and heed serious search for their son / daughter profile…In short , a Marriage will trigger one more marriage of it’s kind ….

On the other hand , Low Carbon Weddings are luring me with baits of eco – friendly concepts , direct social benefits….Some precedences of LC wedding are Marriage Invitations made out of recycled papers ,Any compliments , cash tendered to the couples during marriage directly reaching Charity centers and not for elevating the charisma of couples ,Marriage ceremonies held at Orphanage centers ..No placards , No loud speakers and more Significant Bride’s father is not put into outs…..

Well what is that , I am expecting my spouse to be of….

I have seen some sort of meekness and godliness in the faces of keralites girls ,a unique feature which always makes ratification to my friend’s circle that my spouse will / should be a keralite ..Of course ,She should know Tamil if not fully atleast to a rudimentary level .She should have magnificient flair towards Arts and be adept in one of the arts as painting ,dance, music, handicrafts…Needless to say that she will be creative ..Someone who should indulge her free time in social welfare centres and not in Beauty parlours…
She should not be a Rumour – Monger , an Acrobat , an Eulogiser or an hypocrite..I will strictly say no to direct dowries ,but any indirect dowries like opening a LIC policy ,PPF for my spouse by my father –in –law comes under ‘No –Restriction zone’..I am ready to marry a widow or someone whose marital life is in strands with conditions applicable….

“May be marriages are made in heaven ,but aftermoth Life moves in wife’s Prison” –Just Kidding